As a business coach who helps women to discover their inner entrepreneur, I believe that the first step along this path is confidence. However, confidence can mean different things to different people. Rather than describe it with a formal definition, consider for a moment the following questions:
– What does confidence look like?
– What does confidence sound like?
– What does confidence feel like?
You may answer the first two questions by focusing on the external. It could be a particular person that comes to mind or a certain group of people. We see how they look a certain way, act a certain way, or speak a certain way and then we score them on our confidence scale (or something similar). What do we typically do next? We compare ourselves to them.
The third and last question has a different focus. We have to go inside to answer this one – and for some that can prove to be tricky. When we think of confidence, other words might come to mind like strength, power, ego, arrogance, self-assured, positive, bold, resourceful, and the list goes on. So, if we don’t feel powerful, does that mean we lack confidence? Do we need to be arrogant to have confidence? How about being bold and resourceful? All these words will have a different effect on those who read them. The question really comes down to how much we believe in our confidence? If we believe we are capable, smart, resourceful, bold, or powerful, then surely that’s all that matters – our belief.