- Is it important for you to feel you have control over the decisions you make?
- Do you want to stop spending your days building someone else’s dream – at the expense of your own?
Some of us have a deep-seated desire for freedom and independence, but we continue to work in jobs that keep us feeling trapped in the belief we need to stay to be safe. We tell ourselves that one day we’ll pursue a more rewarding and fulfilling life – just not now – it’s not the ‘right time’.
But we never set a date – and that ‘one-day’ gets pushed further and further away.
So what is it about those that do set a date – a date to escape? What did they do that allowed them to finally stop working on someone else’s dream and finally get to work on their own?
The short answer is this – they discovered two important things:
- They weren’t trapped because others had trapped them; and
- They didn’t need to wait for someone else to set them free.
It really is an inside job.
It’s not a matter of changing the outside world – it’s a matter of changing the inside world – or to be more precise – changing your mindset.
Still with me?
Great! Because we’re just getting to the good part – the part where you can actually start doing something about it.
I’m going to give you two things to consider when it comes to taking back control over YOUR decisions and walking to the beat of YOUR drum, and they are (1) believe in your ability & (2) accept uncertainty:
Believe In Your Ability
This one’s a tricky one and – believe me – I know this from personal experience.
We might have all the knowledge and training required to be considered ‘capable’ or ‘credible’ in what we do – but that’s a whole other story to how much belief we have in our capability and credibility.
Am I capable enough? Am I credible enough?
This is the part where I recommend you start listening to those who tell you that you are credible enough and you are capable enough – those who truly believe in you.
It’s time to start believing in your ability – and the first step to do this is by telling yourself this fact – over and over again. And it certainly won’t do you any harm to spend more time with those who believe in you – and less time with those who do not.
Excuse my French, but crap happens! It really does. Nothing in life is guaranteed, so there’s no better time to get used to that than starting today.
Seriously though, this is our best gremlin at work here.
What if I fail? What if things don’t turn out how I thought they’d turn out? What if I let people down? What if…what if…what if…?
We spend our lives trying to protect every little thing in the hope that we can believe we’re ‘in control’. I’m sorry to break this to you, but it’s just an illusion.
I’m not saying go out and quit your job, sell your house, and take a trip around the world (although I know people who have and the world didn’t end for them).
What I am saying is this – if there is something in your life you want to change for the better, or you want to try something new – and the only thing holding you back are your ‘what ifs’ – then ignore the gremlin and just do it – have a go!
If it doesn’t work out – that’s OK. If it wasn’t what you expected – that’s OK too. If you find something you love – just imagine the possibilities!
Practice this one simple, yet powerful, exercise. When you find yourself saying:
- “I should” – change it to – “I want”
- “Am I enough?” – change it to – “I am enough”
- “What if” – change it to – “Imagine if”
Have a go – I dare you!
What’s the worst that could happen?
Even better – what’s the BEST that could happen?
If you’re curious as to where you might be in YOUR ‘escape’ story, why not take my Corporate Escape Test. It’s not really a test – you won’t get a certificate or anything. But what you do get might just surprise you.
Simply click here: www.coachbydesign.com/resources